It was back to work for me last week after 3 weeks of holidays. On one of the days the girls had a sleepover with nan and pa and Geoff and I took the bus in to the city together. As we sat at the lights there was a young mother with two young children in a pram waiting for the lights to change. I hadn’t realized I was staring until Geoff startled me. I had been looking at her, realising her situation, the point at life she's at and realized that I am now approaching being a cliché.
The flow on from that was thinking forward to how life changes once your children become more independent. I have mentioned before that at almost 41 a 3rd child isn't on the cards for me, so that phase of mother babies and young children is moving ever further away from me. I thought of how you need to begin redefining your life, your place sooner than I'd imagined. In turn I raced forward to realising how important it is to do something you're enthusiastic about, workwise, something that you can draw energy from.
- Simon Johnson, food purveyors
- Cafe Vue at Heide
- Red Shed at Gruyere
- The Big Group
- Elk Accessories
The last one on the list, Montsalvaat. I hadn't been there since I was about 12, but have thought about it often. We went yesterday and after this one snapshot, the camera ran out of battery charge, so frustrating.
It was just as gorgeous as I remember, more so in fact. The girls adored it and even Geoff, who'd never been before, was talking about how wonderful it was in bed last night. It recharged me, it inspired me, the little places that people find and make for themselves in this world is admirable. I'm going to start carving out more of a space for myself, more Victoria space, so that as life moves ever forward, as there is less and less need for mother space in the same way, I'll have a lot of "me" ready to fill up those gaps.